I’m exhausted so let’s talk about the every day struggles around $$ shall we?

Daka and son Dorje

Today I took 1.5 hours of unpaid time off to take our three crazy dogs to the vet. Typically I space out their visits so that financially it works. But we were a tad on the desperate side. See we have used a mobile groomer for well over 6 years. She was awesome, came to our home and took loving care of our three pups. We had her come every three months. Our pups DO not like car rides so any way we can minimize that the easier for all involved. When it came time to schedule their grooming appointment we didn’t get the email out to her before she went on vacation. So as soon as she was back we emailed her, no response. Emailed her again, nothing, called her, no answer and didn’t return our messages. So pretty much after over 6 years we were ghosted by our groomer. So the race was on to see if we could find another mobile groomer. Amazingly they don’t exist, We had one promising lead, but again she decided to also ghost us, cause HEAVEN forbid people just say words to convey a message…..ugh. With the requirement (correctly) of up to date vaccinations we hauled our butts to the vet where I shelled out $822! I love my dogs and it’s not about the money but DAMN there goes the cash I was holding to fix my fence.

LtoR: Dorje, Daka and Ellie. Relaxing after stressful visit to vet

My fence in case you don’t follow me on the social media (Twitter: @PLoker) half fell down. Year or so ago a section of it started leaning heavily but we managed to prop it up. Well earlier this year during an intense wind storm that sucker flat out gave up. So like anyone, I waited until the weather was nicer and I tried to get quotes. I tried, and tried and tried…. I’m confused, if you run a business for anything why is it when people contact you about said anything don’t you use words to convey thoughts? Mainly “super sorry can’t fit you in this season or come out for a quote.” That would be helpful, you know what’s not helpful, just ignoring the people who want to give you money in exchange for doing the thing you created a business for! So after FINALLY getting three quotes ranging from near $10,000 to about $4000 I went with the middle guy who knew budget was a concern. We agreed to only do the one side of the yard for which he quoted me $1600, reasonable. Neighbour I share the lawn with agreed to pay half. Neighbour didn’t find anyone to give quotes or expressed any desire to provide any funds upfront. Cool, all on me, gotcha. Dude asked for $1000 upfront for materials and such, he came, I liked him and his wife. Lovely people. He has some health issues so there started to be some problems….long story short it’s turned in to one of those HGTV horror stories where I’m out $1400 (gave $400 to do my front garden) have a pile of warped wood in my backyard, 6 x 30kg (60 pounds) bags of now garbage concrete and a sour puss dude who refuses to refund me my money.

Bye old fence. Well not by, dude just left this mess!

I also need to re do my driveway, roof, front and side door cause in the winter you can just push my locked door open…that’s safe. And my biggest expense project I can’t get done, my basement which flooded a lot and now has mould.

So needless to say for all those who also bring home the bacon to support your families I GET YOU! You are not alone even though it feel like it. Cause all you want to do is buy yourself some pretty socks but you can’t cause that money needs to buy your family food. Maybe there is a reason why my BP is through the roof lately. LOL 😭

I hope this post doesn’t come off as whiny, I’m really tired cause I don’t sleep much and I’m just trying to put one foot in front of the other. Also my moms PSW is out for two months and we might not get a replacement so those 6 hours my sister used to have to go get groceries may have just dried up so will now have to figure out how we manage bathing mom and getting stuff done after my work hours. Monday’s my sister and I would go out together the only two hours a week we had to spend outside the house with each other. Wednesday’s my sister still gets respite, imma still holding down the fort and working.

What are you struggling with lately? Let’s support each other. Also have I told you that September is Craniofacial Acceptance Month?