Would you rather #1

My last few posts have been kind of heavy so I thought this week I’d do something lighter, I took on a would you rather challenge. I just opened Google and clicked on the first link which was one from Buzzfeed. I didn’t do all of them as I like to keep my Vlogs in or around 10 minutes so if you enjoyed the first video and are looking for me to do more just let me know. Like and subscribe, share my YouTube channel with all your friends and family. YouTube has said they would like more female creators and I’d like to be one of them, I will coni tue making videos and create discussions. I’m not the most creative YouTuber (not by a long shot) but I will be authentic and I aim to help normalize facial differences in the media.

So let’s get to it!

Question one: would you rather Be forced to wear wet socks for the rest of your life? OR Be allowed to wash your hair only once a year?

Answer: This first one was easy, I’d opt to only wash my hair once a year. Wet socks in the winter up here in Canada would SUCK, also trying to sleep with wet socks doesn’t appeal to me either. At least I could keep my hair short, and find imaginative ways to conceal my hair during the final months leading up to the one year mark.

Question two: would you rather Have a finger as a tongue? OR Have tongues for fingers?

Answer: well this one just plain sucks I hate either option but I think tongues for fingers is what I’d go for. I’d wear gloves or something, I also hope they are not fully functional, by that I mean, I hope they don’t have tastebuds and such.

Question three: would you rather Wear someone else’s dirty underwear? OR Use someone else’s toothbrush?

Answer: I dislike sharing people socks that are clean let alone anything else but underwear is 100% out of the question and thus the toothbrush to me seems less gross. Don’t get me wrong I’d still run that sucker under really hot water for a good long time before using it but at least after that it wouldn’t feel used, not like underwear would…ewww!

Question four: would you rather shit bricks? OR pPuke slugs?

Answer: since I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve puked in my life I’d go with that. I poop just about every day so the ides of having to pass a brick daily or multiple times a day isn’t remotely ok with me.

Question five: would you rather pee yourself in public once a week? OR Shit yourself in private daily?

Answer: I went back and forth on this one. There is no clear favourite here. The once a week appealed to me since it’s not daily but the being in public is really what threw me off. So pooping in private it is, just hope it would be at home where I could hop in the shower, kind of what I’d like to do after even thinking of this one.

Question six: would you rather always tell the truth? OR Always lie?

Answer: unlike the last one this one was easy, tell the truth. Although I like to think I’m a good liar I would opt to tell the truth since for the most part the truth is always the best thing.

Question seven: would you rather never have internet access again! OR Never be able to take an airplane anywhere again?

Answer: another easy one here, not ever taking a plane again wouldn’t be the worst. I don’t travel anywhere now so I’m not really giving up on anything. If I lost internet I’d lose my connection to all of you, that would make me sad.

Question eight: would you rather have your body found in a pile of sex toys? OR Have everyone you know see your browser history?

Answer: well I don’t search for anything crazy so have at it everyone! Although I’d kind of like to see the news headline on the first option there… hmmmm…. lol

Question nine: would you rather be the real-life version of “American Horror Story” ? OR Be the real-life version of “The Walking Dead”?

Answer: well if you know me at all it shouldn’t be a surprise as to which one I’m going to choose here…. Kind of already living the first one so figure might as well rock it and keep going! Zombies are overrated anyways.

Question ten: would you rather only be able to whisper everything? OR Only be able to shout everything?

Answer: shouting would be tiring for all involved so I’d opt to whisper. At least those I know are already used to asking me to repeat myself.

Question ten: would you rather run your tongue down a New York City sidewalk? OR Press your tongue into a stranger’s nostril?

Answer: I can’t physically stick out my tongue far enough for the second one so you’d think I’d choose that one, but nope, I’m not up for being in someone’s personal space. I’d just find the least dirty part of the sidewalk and have at it.

Question eleven: would you rather find true love? OR Win the lottery?

Answer: I’ve been alone this long and although it’d be sweet to have my one true love, right this second I’d choose to win the lottery. I have a basement that I need to completely gut, fix, than re-do, roof, driveway and fence I need to replace, and honestly I’d love to go on a trip somewhere warm. Call me jaded but love can’t help me take care of my house and this my family.

Question twelve: would you rather fight off a dog-sized cockroach? OR A horse-sized rat?

Answer: I’m going for the horse-sized rat cause cockroaches are just nasty.

Question thirteen: would you rather immerse yourself in a bathtub of spiders? OR A bathtub of tobacco spit?

Answer: well truth be told, neither….like ever… yuck. However since I had to choose one it’s be the spit followed by a very long shower. Spiders don’t scare me however a tub full of them just crawling on me… yeah no thanks.

Question fourteen: would you rather receive a lifetime supply of meals from your favourite restaurant? OR Receive a lifetime of free gasoline?

Answer: again another super easy one. I can’t drive so free food for the rest of my life? Yes please!

And last one

Question fifteen: would you rather Have a photographic memory? OR Be able to totally forget anything you want?

Answer: although forgetting some stuff would be cool I think those memories also make me who I’ve become and so far there has been nothing in my life I’d really want to forget. Well I think my brain took care of most of that on its own, it’s scary the amount of my childhood I simply don’t recall. So having a photographic memory would most likely come in handy.

So those were my choices, what would you have picked? Again feel free to share and let me know what you’d like to see more of.

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Why?

Over the last 2 months 3 of my favourite shows have used a sad cliche/trope and I want to share my feelings, share where my heads at. This isn’t the first post on this blog where I’ve talked about this issue and by the looks of it, it won’t be the last.

The issue? The cliche/trope I’m talking about is the use of a facial difference to signify to an audience that a particular character is evil, or “the bad guy”. In the last two months alone there have been not one, not two, but three instances of my favourite shows using this as catalyst to tell their stories. These are shows where I’m a fan, where I’ve watched every episode, where I’m invested in both the characters and the stories. But watching these episodes left me angry, sad, and confused.

I’ve been told that I should just suck it up, that I shouldn’t take it personally, I need to get over it. I would love to, nothing would make me happier than to just watch my favourite movies and shows and just get lost in story. I’m writing this because I’m trying to help kids who have and will be born like me. Kids who will already face a life time of struggles I know all too well. I want kids with facial differences to be able to turn on the tv, open a magazine, and watch a movie, and see themselves. I have ZERO clue what’s that’s like. For 99% of you who read this you will not get what I’m talking about because all that is portrayed are versions of yourself. Are all minorities positively represented as much as they should? Of course not, society needs to do a lot better for a lot of people. There are so many injustices I wish I could fix, but this one that I’m talking about today is personal. I’m not going to “get over it” and I assure you this is t simply “butt hurt” it’s an actual problem of systemic, institutionalized discrimination and I’m tired of it. As a society we’ve determined that blackface is wrong, that white washing is wrong, yet somehow I’m just supposed to accept that using prosthetics to mark up an actors face so that they can appear to be “ugly” thus evil is not a slight against me. That is ok that the only time there is a facial difference on screen it’s a big red arrow showing that this character that they see is absolutely the bad guy, not a hero, not someone to invest your time in, not someone that should be loved, just a throw away character, someone for the hero’s to kill.

I get that most of you who read this don’t have a facial difference and some of you won’t be able to wrap your brain around the message I’m trying to convey. Honestly if that’s the case please tell me what part of my discussion is unclear? Tell me please, without using the justification “it’s just a story” or “it’s just made up” how wrong I am.

Earlier I mentioned three shows in the last two months that have made me cry, make me think there is zero hope for the future regarding this concern.

November 8th, 2017 I was catching up on an episode of Hawaii Five-0, it was their Halloween episode and they made up a character, a girl who’s backstory states had been kidnaped, brutally beaten and held captive only to be tied to a tree where her half her face was pretty much eaten off by some wild animal. The writers than saw fit to use this as the reason why she turned into this evil monster hell bent on killing people. Here is my Twitter rant I went on that night so you can get a a sense as to where my head was at when watching it. Hawaii Five-0

November 11th, 2017 I was catching up on an episode of Blindspot and the bad guy had a giant scar down his face.

Last night I was catching up on an episode of Frankie Drake Mysteries, you’d be forgiven if you’ve never heard or seen the show. It airs here in Canada on CBC (and I think a few other countries not sure where or what networks). It’s a great show set in Toronto in the 1920’s and follows a forward thinking group of amazingly badass women solving what cases land on their door step. The episode titled Ghosts sees a few guys murdered and off they go to gather clues. As soon as I seen the main character pick up a “mask” that had a partial face drawn on it, I knew. I hoped I’d be proven oh so wrong, but I knew I wouldn’t be. The “bad guy”was killing those responsible for his facial difference.

In each of these three instances (there are more) I’ve tired to use social media to engage the writers, show runners etc. In each case there has been crickets in return. It’s frustrating because no one responsible is willing to engage. I’m not unreasonable I want the opportunity to have that conversation to see what their thought process was.

As exhausted, angry, and sad I am, despite the fact that some days I want to give up on this whole advocacy thing, I can’t. Even if it’s me against the world I will continue to call this BS out every time I see it. I’m not the villain, and I refuse to accept that this the only way I “see”myself in media.

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